Tuesday, March 25, 2008

In Memory of Whitney...

Whitney Nelson December 10, 1986 - March 25,2007

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It was one year ago today that my sister Whitney, who was 20 years old, passed away. This event has been on my mind a lot lately so I thought I would share some of my thoughts and feelings. This year has had its ups and downs for our family as we have tried to learn how to deal the loss of our loved one. There have been many happy moments as I recall the wonderful times that I had with Whitney and the wonderful, happy, bubbly person that she was. And then I have days that much heartache and sorrow are felt as I remember the events that occured. Although there have been many challenging days I feel so grateful for this experience because it has deeply strenghtended my testimony of the Plan of Salvation and knowing that I will be able to see her again. I know that Whitney is happy, and that she is near us cheering us on through our journeys in life. I love you Whitney!!

Memories of Whitney:

1. Her deep raspy voice!!

2. Her self-appointed middle name "Cheyenne". She wasn't given a middle name but she knew that my dad loved the name Cheyenne and wanted to name her that but my mom didn't like it. So she decided that she would just call herself Whitney Cheyenne anyway. Funny thing is: Whitney Cheyenne Nelson is on her diploma.

3. Her passion for fashion and beauty. Whitney was a diva! She graduated from Dallas Roberts Hair Academy, worked at Banana Republic, and the MAC counter at Nordstrom.... NEED I SAY MORE!! She dreamed of living in New York and doing makeup for 'Stars'!

4. The way that she could deeply express how she felt, whether happy or sad.

5. Her quick wit and sense of humor. After her passing a friend of our family relayed this story to us: She was at one of Cammie's basketball games, wearing her Provo High Cheer clothes, cheering Cammie on and this lady turned to her and asked her why her family is so amazing and her response was "I can't tell you! It's our family secret!"

6. When we were in High School I can't tell you how hours Whitney spent helping me straighten my hair!! But it was the ritual that I remember the most. She would come down in my room at night and we would turn on The Wedding Planner and she would spend about an hour or longer straightening my long, curly, frizzy hair. Sometimes we would actually watch the movie and quote the lines but other times we would just chat. Then when she was done she usually wanted to just sleep in my room with me. GOOD TIMES!

7. Whitney and I one year took some summer school classes together. I just remember that we loved to go to Carl's Jr for breakfast whenever we saw the sign for Buy 1 Get 1 Breakfast Sandwiches. When we would go there we would get the sandwiches and then Whitney would always ask for an order of Criss-cut fries. It was not a breakfast item but they were always willing to cook some up, which Whitney loved since we knew they were VERY fresh!! It would take longer since they weren't already cooked and we would always go through the drive-thru and they would usually ask us to pull forward and they would bring them to us when they were done. So if we were running late Whitney couldn't order fries!

8. I remember one Halloween, in high school, that Whitney just really wanted to dress up and wanted me to dress up with her. She dressed up as a Barbie (Of Course!) and I didn't really have anything in mind for myself. Well Whitney really wanted to rat my hair so she had the "great idea" of having me just wear all black and paint my face white and she would rat my hair to make me just look like a scary Halloween something... We then just walked around the neighborhood knocking on a few neighbors doors just for fun!! I was actually a bit embarassed but Whitney always had a way of talking you into things.

9. Whitney loved Macaroni and Cheese, WITH PEAS!! I don't know why this really stands out to me but I remember that Whitney loved to come home from school and make and eat a WHOLE box of Mac 'n Cheese WITH PEAS in it. That or Ramen Noodles. Well every time we eat Mac 'n Cheese we eat it WITH PEAS! And every time I eat it I think of her!! Funny thing is: when she passed away and we were going through some things in her room sure enough when we found her "Secret Stash" there was a box of EASY MAC!! Even when Whit was trying to eat good she still had to have her MAC!

10. One other thing that makes me think of Whitney every single time I see it is SUSHI! She is the one that introduced me to it. She loved to go to this restaurant call Demai (sp?) on Tuesdays when Sushi was $2-$4/roll. One night when I was visiting Utah she went there with some friends and brought a roll home for me to try!

8 comments:

Ryan and Tammy said...

I can't believe it's been a year. I miss that sweet girl! I love to see and hear stories even though I can't help but cry sometimes...darn this pregnancy hormone thing that makes it so hard to not cry:(

whitneyingram said...

I just read that while wiping away tears. Like everyone else, I can't believe it has been a year. This time last year was hard for alot of people. I remember not getting a whole lot of sleep. For some reason, Whitney's passing really effected me. But it is comforting to know she is in a safe and happy place.

Anonymous said...

It is tough to know Whitney is not here now but it is also great to know that we often feel that she is "here." I agree with your comments, and am grateful that we've grown closer together because of her. No doubt Whitney is smiling and having fun right now.
Steve Nabrotzky

Sarie said...

Tasha, Tammy just told me she cried when she read this. my first thought was well, Whit thinks crying is good for you so its ok. My second thought was I should read it too. I really miss her! I am glad that second thought came because I love hearing memories I remember too from other people. I'm so used to eating mac and cheese with peas I sometimes forget that most people don't. I love that picture from dumpster diving we all used to have so much fun with that! I have a great picture of her and Scott right after we got home I would love to e-mail you. (what is your e-mail address?) Tasha I am so glad we were able to spend time together in high school. Whit and I both looked up to you a lot! much love - Sara

Anonymous said...

I miss her!! I LOVED all top 10 memories of her!! Oh how I miss her raspy voice! lol. I love you guys very much!!

cat+tadd=sam said...

Thanks for posting all these happy memories, I like to hold on to those! Whitney is such a sweetheart!

Anonymous said...

Koni doesn't like the name Macey, so she doesn't want to vote on that. She wants to know why you can't name the baby Catherine?

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